Key Point 1 - (Introduction) People give up on major dreams or goals
Have you ever given up on a dream? Or left a path that you were happy to be on? We probably all have. There are many reasons to give up.
Often, it is our fear of bad consequences that keep us from doing what we really want to do.
This book will show you how to keep more of your dreams--relating to major life choices.
I have met women that have quit their work for a year or two, who think they will never go back. They have totally given up on the career that they want. They have chosen their family instead. They think they will not be able to resume their career after a long break. Other women are afraid to have that first child, or third child, that they really want, for fear that it will ruin their career. Still others have the children they want, and want to spend more time with them, especially when they are young. But they are afraid to switch to part-time work, for fear that it will ruin their career.
Key Point #2 Hoping for the impossible
I didn’t want to give up on my dreams. I wanted to be a great actuary. I also wanted to be a mother, and if I were blessed with motherhood, to raise my children myself, as a full-time mother.
As I did become a mother, with a large family, I took 19 years to raise them. Common thinking would be that I would not be able to work professionally again as an actuary. That a ‘break’ of that magnitude would be impossible to overcome.
Key Point #3 Achieving the impossible
I landed a job as an FSA in 2012; I got promoted to manager 7 months later.
After 5 years there, I got a job with another company in 2017 as an AVP; I got promoted to full VP 7 months later. I worked hard and worked long hours to get a lot done.
Full VP was my career goal, that I set when I was 20 years old. So I made it, and my message is that others can too.
Corollary 1 - These principles assume that you have the knowledge and credentials to do a job that pays you a living wage. I’ll include a chapter to help people work toward this if they don’t already have that.
Key Point #4 - Stay current without ‘working’
Volunteer, read, teach--do things that fit into your non-working season of life which will help you back into a working season later.
I volunteered with the SOA E&E committee and taught at some universities to help stay current
Key Point 5 - Keep a vision in mind
On my ‘break,’ I put it in quotes, because I still had in mind that I was an actuary, that I wanted to return, and I was always on the lookout for things to do that could keep me current. -- see points 2 & 4
Key Point 6 - ‘But Linley, you could do this because you’re so smart’
This has nothing to do with being smart. It has to do with being wise. It is looking at the big picture, and keeping your vision in sight.
The particular job you choose should have something to do with your interests, talents, and abilities. But these principles for reaching career goals and life goals are just strategies and do not require a higher level of intelligence.